People set goals to give them purpose in the life, to increase their potential, to enhance, enrich and increase their happiness in life but what if you have set your goal, you are working towards it but you still do not feel content, satisfied or happy? Well, you may have missed out an important step.
It is important when setting goals to know the value behind those goals because if a goal does not match your core values it will bring discomfort, which is why some people spend a miserable life trying to find happiness.
When setting your goals it is important to find the core value behind the goals. Questions that are useful during this process are:
- What are my goals and what do I really want in life?
- When you reach your goal what will it give you?
The second question is the most important when considering your values. Many people do not know themselves enough and do not have an understanding of what they really want and why they really want it. Ask yourself this question over and over again to get to the core of who you are.
An example of this process is as follows:
Goal: To set up a new business
Q. When the business is up and running, what will it give me?
A. More money
Q. When I have more money, what will it give me?
A. More freedom
Q. When I have more freedom, what will it give me?
A. More opportunities?
Q. When I have more opportunities, what will it give me?
A. More choice.
Q. When I have more choice, what will it give me?
A. More experiences
Q. When I have more experiences, what it will it give me?
A. More personal growth
Going through this process allows you to get to the core of your goals. It allows you to see the drive behind your goals. It allows you to see what is important to you.
Now you have the value behind the goal, you can use this to inform, not only the destination but the journey too. If you take on a journey towards the goal and you do not take steps that are compatible with your core values you will not have a happy journey. Armed with this information, you can set interim goals and steps that are in line with your core values. Using the example above, when making an action plan you can check in with yourself throughout the process, asking yourself questions such as,
- Does this task, increase my personal growth?
- If I carry out this task, how will I grow as a person?
When your goals meet your core values, you will find the motivation to carry on where others may fail. When the journey towards your goals also meets your core values, you will enjoy the journey as much as you will the destination.